Returning home from a mini-retirement after a month abroad; or, a hard-learned lesson soaked in blood

I sit at my computer in a pool of blood and around me are the relics of who I was before this mini-retirement.

To better preface, sometime over the 18 hours of traveling home, carrying mine and my wife’s backpack by foot, taxi and airplane, I tore a hemorrhoid I had develop in few days leading up to our flight home from Mexico.

Yes. Disgusting.

What’s more, my readers, is that the crust and congeal I feel beneath me is a quaint reminder. Of what, you ask?

That the way I was living before Mexico, before this mini-vacation, this mini-retirement, was a vain-foolish effort to push my hell-bent mania into being. And it took the food, people and countryside of another country to pop that sick way of living and leave me embarrassingly bloody.

My readers, this of course is not the most flattering topic to broach with you – but you too are pushing too hard. You are huffing and puffing, sweating even, to make your life into something – and for what?

More money? A nicer car? A larger place to live?

Abandoning the life I had here in the states has brought me to a profound sense of humility. I was sick, my readers, ill even, with the over-reaching ambition to make what I felt in my gut to be true a reality for all way too soon. And for what?

Another achieved accomplishment? A validated sense of self? A holier-than-thou spirit?

Aye… so much pushing and fighting, and now I am left with pain, remorse, and an opportunity to take the time to heal from who I was.

Slow down my friends, we all know that traditional retirement is a scam, that the pursuit of riches beyond measure doesn’t add up, and that the best things in life are free/cheap/abundant. Let the process unfold with you and enjoy every moment of it.

Or prepare to sit in the bloody mess of who you are.

Find Your New Self in the 5am Club

So just got done reading the 5 AM club….

and it was super cool  here are my very in depth review of it you can watch the YouTube video but I’m gonna take the rest of this blog post to layout the bull in a bullet point fashion the key insights that I got out of the book so here they are:

Key Insights

  • This is a story of Archetypes
    • Billionaire
    • Spell Binder
    • Entrepreneur
    • Artist
  • You have to make each day deliberate, 5am is a choice
  • You have learn to focus on taking time for your self, 5-6am
  • You have to be consistent, results don’t happen – you make them
  • You have to cultivate mind, heart, health, and soul
  • You have to let go of who you are to become anew
  • you have to deliberately make new habits (Atomic Habits & The Power of Habit for more)
    • Trigger
    • Behavior
    • Reward
    • Repeat
      • Crave the trigger
  • It takes 66 repetitions to make a habit that will last
    • the first 22 will be hard – deconstruction of neural pathways
    • The second 22 will be messy – you are installing new neural pathways
    • The last 22 days will be beautiful – you have crystallizing your neural pathways
  • You will see stacking effects when you repeat habits
  • 20/20/20 rule for you 5am hour – Your new morning routine (Sweat/Reflect/Grow)
    • 20 min Sweat workout, kill your cortisol
    • 20 min Reflect on what is important, what you value and become still
      • 10 min write out the perfect day
      • Daily journaling (give up your negativity and your positivity
      • Meditate
    • 20 min Grow upgrade your knowledge & skills
  • Sleep is super important, it is when you have the highest levels of HGH (human growth hormone)
    • 7pm
      • Tech Turned Off
      • Last Meal
    • 8pm
      • Wind down
      • Be with your family and loved ones
    • 9pm
      • Be in bed
      • Go to sleep

I honestly should probably do a review of the bullet Journal method. there’s like a billion of them online but that’s part of why my Keith notes look the way they do. anyway so now I’m gonna get into what’s called the amazing day and this is the Super Gen version of it I can’t actually recreate what’s in his book without my you know plagiarising him and getting in loads of trouble but I can give you the basic rundown and I also can give you his 10 tactics which honestly they are super so you like those annual find them below

The Amazing Day

No-tech Morning Hours

  • 04:30 Alarm goes off
    • Get into your gym clothes
    • Brush your teeth
  • 05:00 Start Sweating
  • 05:20 Start Reflecting
  • 05:40 Start Growing
  • 06:00 End of Victory Hour
  • 06:00 – 08:00 Spend time with family & with your personal project

Tech Midday Hours

  • 08:00 – 13:00 High Value Work
    • 90mins / 90days / 1task
    • 60min work / 10min rest
  • 13:00 – 17:00 Low Value Work
    • Break your fast (16 hours fasting / 8 hours non fasting)
    • Admin
    • Meetings
    • Follow-up
  • 17:00 – 18:00 Disconnect from work / start to do neutral stuff
    • Commute University
    • Massage
    • Workout

No-tech Evening Hours

  • 18:00 – 19:30 Family & personal project time
  • 19:30 – 21:30 Nightly Ritual
  • 21:30 Sleep

I’m just going to really quick lay down the titles for the 10 tactics but I’m not gonna write out all of my notes if you wanna know the good stuff go get the book.

10 Tactics

  1. The tight bubble of total focus
  2. 90/90/1 rule
  3. 60/10 method
  4. The daily 5 concept
  5. Second wind workout
  6. 2 Massage Protocol
  7. Traffic University
  8. Dream Team
  9. Weekly Design
  10. 60 Minute Student

OK that’s it. I’m ready to go move on with my life. and I also need to turn off all my devices at this time.

Would you try to live like this for 66 days?

No More Mr. Nice Guy! Book Review

by Dr. Robert A Glover

It was a ton of fun to read this book. I learned a ton about my self and I highly recommend it to any one that would be interested in throwing off some of their baggage.

You can watch my video review below, and I have also included the 30 rules beneath the video:

The Thirty Rules for No More Mr. Nice Guy!

  1. If it frightens you, do it.
  2. Don’t settle. Every time you settle, you get exactly what you settled for.
  3. Put yourself first.
  4. No matter what happens, you will handle it.
  5. Whatever you do, do it 100%.
  6. If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got.
  7. You are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness.
  8. Ask for what you want.
  9. If what you are doing isn’t working, try something different.
  10. Be clear and direct.
  11. Learn to say “no.”
  12. Don’t make excuses.
  13. If you are an adult, you are old enough to make your own rules.
  14. Let people help you.
  15. Be honest with yourself.
  16. Do not let anyone treat you badly. No one. Ever.
  17. Remove yourself from a bad situation instead of waiting for the situation to change.
  18. Don’t tolerate the intolerable — ever.
  19. Stop blaming. Victims never succeed.
  20. Live with integrity. Decide what feels right to you, then do it.
  21. Accept the consequences of your actions.
  22. Be good to yourself.
  23. Think “abundance.”
  24. Face difficult situations and conflict head on.
  25. Don’t do anything in secret.
  26. Do it now.
  27. Be willing to let go of what you have so you can get what you want.
  28. Have fun. If you are not having fun, something is wrong.
  29. Give yourself room to fail. There are no mistakes, only learning experiences.
  30. Control is an illusion. Let go; let life happen.

What are some of your No More Mr. Nice Guy! rules for your self?